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Men know for a fact that women have it easy. They think the world’s hell bent on coddling and supporting the fairer sex while ignoring their needs completely.  Women know for a fact that men have it made. They talk about a dick-centred institutional system of oppression known as the patriarchy whose sole mission is to keep them rooted in second class system status, while bathing the world in the dark and satanic glow of the desires of the straight white male. Men’s Rights Activists (MRAs) and feminists are doing battle over cyberspace right now as you read these words; both sides desperate to declare themselves right and force their own ideology onto society at large. A war of troll-induced verbal hatred is spewing across the globe as both sides rant, rave and scream in 140 characters or less and simply refuse to take on board any opinions that differ to their own. MRAs point to the fact that:

Women almost always get full custody of kids after a divorce
Men often have to pay crippling alimony to their ex wives after a divorce
Men receive no support for sexual or spousal abuse
Men are expected to act as father figure protectors to women while also treating them equally
Men are often made to look like fools in the media
Men have no reproductive rights and can’t choose whether or not to be fathers
All men are seen as potential rapists and paedophiles
Homeless people are almost always men, which highlights an institutional lack of support for them

Now of course there are far more issues, but that’s a good starting point, as for feminists, they argue that:

  • Women are treated as sex objects, their bodies used to market and sell products thus demeaning them as human beings
  • A woman will likely be paid less than a male colleague with the same job
  • Some men rape and murder women with impunity
  • Women are more likely to be attacked by trolls online than men
  • Society is set up to see them as weak hence why doing something like a girl is seen as negative

And much more. Some MRAs know women are coddled and some feminists know that women live a world fraught with dangers. A world in which rape and murder can come at a moment’s notice meaning that they’re never truly safe. Truth be told, looking the at the above points it seems like feminists might have a stronger case but I don’t think it really matters who’s actually right because both sides are trapped in their own stories and everyone’s completely miserable making the point moot.

John Bradford, a man who’s still paying half his salary to provide for a wife who cheated on and divorced him while he only gets to see his children twice a month understandably thinks the world’s geared against him. Nicola Hunter, a woman who’s inundated with media images of women with bodies she doesn’t think she’ll ever be able possess and feels ugly as a result knows she’s marginalised and lives in a world that only wants to satisfy the male gaze.

But what Nicola doesn’t realise is that when a man sees a beautiful model in a magazine, he’s not being satisfied in any way, shape or form. He’s being teased and taunted with an image of something he knows he’ll probably never have in order to make him think there’s something lacking inside and be a mindless little consumer of goods for wealthy corporations. John, aka the alimony paying suicidal thought having she’ll of a man doesn’t appreciate the fact that while having to pay to keep a woman after she divorced you is seven shades of messed up, his ex wife didn’t create the social mentality that spawned that outcome and that if the situations were reversed he’d take it in a heartbeat.

You could spend 100 years trying to argue which side is more right than the other. Whether or not rape is as pressing an issue as feminists make out, if all men are potential paedophiles and whether or not guys have a right to be bothered by that assumption but it simply doesn’t matter.

We live in a world where everybody has it good and bad in different areas, women get paid less, but men are expected to pay for dates. Men feel safe walking the street at night but disproportionately end up homeless because people give less of a shit about their struggles than they do those of women.

I’m black and one idea I (and most other blacks) always had firmly planted in my mind is that if a black and white child were both murdered on the same day, the white child would make the news and the black one wouldn’t. So I find it funny to see feminists arguing with MRAs because the vast majority of them are all white and in my opinion above me on the societal totem pole! :p

It doesn’t really make any sense to shout and scream in the hopes of bringing about radical social change cause all you really do is end up making people think you’re a hot-headed prick.
What people need to do is sit down and have proper conversations with each other so everyone’s experience and point of view can be integrated into the social consciousness and real change can come about from a position of understanding.

It doesn’t really make any sense to shout and scream in the hopes of bringing about radical social change cause all you really do is end up making people think you’re a hot-headed prick.
What people need to do is sit down and have proper conversations with each other so everyone’s experience and point of view can be integrated into the social consciousness and real change can come about from a position of understanding.

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